During seasons of grief and loss, self-care activities often don’t feel like priorities. Low energy and changes in routine can make it hard to remember or feel motivated to engage in the activities that once seemed so natural and life-giving. Prior to a loved-one’s death, many are focused on caring for, and spending time with their loved one.  As a result, it can naturally feel like it’s been a long time since you have spent much time focusing on self-care. And when it feels as though all you can do is get through the day, your mind is not focused on how to care for yourself.

If any of those scenarios relate to you, you are not alone!

With all that being said, self-care activities provide your mind time to heal. They also provide your body the opportunity to experience relief that comes with the release of tension and engagement in pleasurable activities. The body’s immune system often becomes weakened, making it important to take moments in the day to care for your body. Self-care activities can become opportunities to express and experience the emotions you have about the loved one you dearly miss. They also provide people needed space and comfort.  

If you’re reading this and you don’t know where to start – focus on taking small moments in the day to care for yourself, paying attention to the ways that you can care for your health in different ways. You could try any of the following:

Physical Health:

  • Go for a walk. Focus on healthy eating­ and sleep. Listen to what your body is saying it needs. Get some fresh air and sunlight.

Emotional & Mental Health:

  • Express your emotions – remember it is normal to feel a wide range of emotions in grief. Journal. Listen to music. Tell someone how you feel. Be gentle with yourself – it’s okay if you’re not able to do everything you’re used to doing.

Relational Health:

  • Call or text a family member. Play a board game or go for coffee with someone you love. Talk to a friend, counselor or spiritual mentor and tell them how you feel.

In all of this, remember that while these are ideas that have helped others, you can make self-care your own. Just like loss and grieving are such personal journeys, so to is self-care.  

Please remember that none of us need to walk through grief and loss alone. If you believe that you would benefit from talking to a therapist, our team would be honoured to walk with you.  


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Kendra Finlayson – Masters in Divinity (M.Div.)
Kendra Finlayson