A question I am often asked is how do I support my child/children through
separation?
As you go through this difficult season of your life remember;
- Children are resilient, with the right supports in place they can make it through a separation.
- You do not have to return to an unhealthy relationship “for the sake of the children”, especially if there
is physical, mental, emotional, or financial abuse.
- You are not alone. There are community resources, people, community groups, faith groups that can come alongside you & help you get through this challenging time.
There are 3 key elements to supporting your child through the transition:
- Communication – share with your child (both parents if possible) that Mom & Dad are separating. Try your best to be honest and answer their questions as best you can for their age without blame. Be careful not to put your children in the middle of any conflict you are having with your partner.
- Share with your child what will be different but also those things that will remain the same.
- Lastly, be sure to communicate to your child/children that your love for them will not change and although Mom and Dad’s relationship has ended, the parent child relationship has not.
A note to parents when making decisions after the separation. Wherever possible, keep in mind the best interest of the child. Whenever making decisions ask yourself, is this decision based on how I feel towards my ex-partner or is it the best for my child?
If you feel you need some help getting you or your children through the challenging season of separation and adjustment, please contact us at LifeCare Centres
